The Most Important Question to Ask Your Kid Before Bed

A simple practice that can help your child build confidence and reshape their mindset

A little over a year ago, we had Mark England on the show — and something he said in that conversation stuck with me long after we stopped recording.

He was talking about atelaphobia: the fear of not being good enough. And his point was that this fear doesn’t just show up in adults — it gets passed down. We hand it to our kids, often without realizing it, through the stories they hear, the language around them, and the questions we ask at the end of the day.

His suggestion was almost laughably simple: a wins journal. One sentence. Something your kid did well today. Write it, read it back, repeat. That’s it.

But the more I sat with that idea, the more I thought — there’s a book in this. A kids’ book, more specifically. Something you can sit down and read with your child that opens a door to a conversation that’s genuinely hard to start any other way.

So I wrote that book. It’s called What’s a Win I Won Today? — and in today’s short bonus episode, I read it to you in full, share why I wrote it, and explain why I keep coming back to this format as a way to talk to my boys about the things that actually matter.

If you’ve got a kid in your life — a son, a daughter, a student, a niece or nephew — I hope this helps start that conversation.

🎧 Listen to the episode:

• Chase Club (Ad Free)

• Spotify

• Apple Podcasts

📖 Get the book on Amazon